Are Our Children Just Borrowing our Faith?

We have all seen the troubling statistics about our children leaving home and wanting NOTHING to do with our faith, church, the Bible or seemingly anything that we worked so hard to impart to them....so what's up?

Clearly, there is never just one answer to the dilemma....but here is an article about how many kids simply BORROW our faith to appease us while in our homes....but as soon as they leave home it becomes very apparent that they have just been borrowing their parent's faith.

In my family, faith looked like spiritual "parallel play." Parallel play is the stage young toddlers go through where they enjoy being near other kids, but don't actually interact with each other yet. They'll play blocks side by side, but they won't find ways to play blocks together.

My family members would individually read their Bibles, go to church every week, participate in prayer chains, and humbly remind each other that plans would only happen "Lord willing."  Those were the spiritual blocks they played with next to me.

Meanwhile, I went to church, was at least mildly interested in what I heard, felt confident that if I died I would be saved, prayed occasionally on my own, went to church camps, attended youth nights, and freely told anyone who asked that I was a Christian. Those were the spiritual blocks I played with next to them.

But we never spiritually played together. Without that deeper engagement, my faith simply remained shallow and was based on living out a copy of what those around me were doing.

I left home with a completely borrowed faith.

I had never made it my own, but not because I rejected it in any way.

Many parents are brokenhearted when their kids reject Christianity in the teen years. I would suggest that many other parents are lulled into a false sense of security when their kids appear to toe the line of faith until they leave home. That faith often amounts to little more than borrowed beliefs which will soon be shattered.

Make no mistake: a borrowed faith leaving home can be just as dangerous as a broken faith. The result is often the same, just delayed.

When I originally started this post, I planned to call it, "10 Signs Your Kids are Just Borrowing Your Faith." As I thought through the signs I can see in retrospect from my own experience, however, I found they all really pointed back to just one sign. So here it is:

The number one sign your kids are just borrowing your faith is that they rarely, if ever, ask questions.

They may be just uninterested enough to not ask questions, but not so uninterested as to reject Christianity altogether. They'll just borrow your faith for a while because that's what's in front of them on the buffet.

They may not yet see the importance of Christian belief in their lives. It's perceived as just another subject they're learning about, like math. They'll just borrow your faith for a while because they don't think it's important enough to think more deeply about.

They may not have been exposed to enough non-Christian ideas yet. Their faith isn't being challenged in preparation for the adult world. Challenge them. If you don't, non-believers soon will. 

They'll just borrow your faith for a while because they see no need not to.

They may be scared or uncertain of your reaction. They'll just borrow your faith for a while because that's what they think is expected of them.

They may be getting answers elsewhere - usually not the answers you'd like them to have. They'll just borrow your faith for a while because they don't want to rock the boat at home.

If your kids aren't asking questions, start asking THEM questions. Open the door for the conversation yourself and get them thinking in ways that will ultimately allow them to own their faith.

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Did you catch that??  The #1 clue that your kids at home are simply borrowing your faith is that THEY NEVER ASK QUESTIONS.  They don't want to rock the boat....they just want to get through this "class" of Christianity just like they get through a math or English class at school.  Once the class is done they throw away the book and don't think about math anymore!

In the same way, once they "pass" the Jesus class of Sunday School, Awana, confirmation, High School Youth Group....they graduate from YOUR HOUSE, head of to college and throw away the book.

How many of our kids have simply borrowed our faith?