Thursday, October 13, 2016

Don't Give Your Children Smart Phones

"Happy 13th Birthday Junior!  We hope you enjoy your new SmartPhone with unlimited calling, unlimited texting and unlimited you can be online all day long if you want to!  We hope you have fun searching for every kind of crazy pornography your little pre-pubescent mind can conjure up!  We hope you won't damage your mind and make it hard for you to relate to a real woman some day....and we hope you don't damage your penis from aggressive masturbation....and we certainly hope you don't use Social Media to bully anyone or send naked pictures of yourself or any of your friends!  But other than that....have fun!!

The horror stories are real. Don’t give your children a smartphone.

 After spending four days at the Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation Summit in Houston, Texas, my brain is very tired. We heard lectures on neuroscience, human trafficking, sexual abuse, child exploitation, and so much more. And we heard many, many lectures on the poison that is seeping in everywhere, fueling sexual abuse, destroying relationships, breaking down the ability of men to function, and obliterating childhood: pornography.

I’ll be writing a lot more about what I’ve learned (read my reports from the conference here, here, and here) but for now I’d like to make one simple plea to parents, something nearly every speaker and every lecturer advised: don’t give your children smartphones.

It’s crazy to think that a decade ago, smartphones were uncommon. Many people didn’t even own a cell phone. Now, as we heard from Vanity Fair journalist and author of American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers Nancy Jo Sales, nearly every social interaction - and sexual interaction - of teenagers is shaped by the tiny, always-throbbing devices they carry with them wherever they go. This has given rise to cyber-bullying and a spate of suicides, sexting and sexual exploitation of teens by teens, and the nearly non-stop viewing and amateur production of pornography. Teenagers - and children - are pulled into the social webs woven from Facebook to Instagram, from Snapchat to a half-dozen other underground cyber-settings, the interactions and content curated only by the children who populate them, free of parental or adult supervision.

Teenagers know that it’s making their lives miserable. The girls Sales talked to told her so. They also said that they had no way of getting out. Much of life is now lived online, and to opt out is to engage in voluntary isolation. The currency is often nude or sexually explicit pictures or “selfies”—and increasingly, that’s often non-optional, too.

Parents cannot control the new world of teenagers. In many cases, they cannot even penetrate it. That is why one man was so bewildered when his daughter hung herself after a teenager cruelly posted a video of her in the shower on Snapchat—that was the first time the girl’s bereaved father had ever even heard of Snapchat. For parents who wish to rescue their children from the cyber-jungle or spare them the pain that is engulfing millions, there are a number of answers. Open communication and open conversations. Attempted oversight of social media use. Accountability software and filters on all technological devices.

But for today, I just want to push one: Don’t give your children smartphones.

Really people??  Are we honestly that dumb as parents that millions of teens, Christian teens even, are walking around with a loaded gun of unsupervised internet access and our only excuse is, "Well, all the other kids have one....and I didn't want Bobby to feel left out!"

So if all the other kids parents were pushing their kids off a cliff....are you saying you would too!!

Time to wake up parents!  Start being a parent!  It's not your job to ensure that your kids like you!  It's your job to be the parent that Jesus Christ asks us to be!!


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