I remember 30 years ago having a conversation with someone at the office about the gay lifestyle. I had said to this guy that I didn't believe being gay was a "normal" lifestyle. I also said that I believed men having sex with men was a sin in the eyes of God because it was a perversion from the way God intended sex to be. And furthermore I quoted Romans 1 that clearly pointed out that gay sex and gay marriage was wrong...in the eyes of God.
His response was that one of his best friends from church has a gay son. And this gay son was a wonderful person. And the parents of this gay son had called the pastor at their church and threatened to stop giving money to the church and even leave the church IF the church didn't change their policy to accept the gay lifestyle of their son as "non-sinful".
So over the past 30 years, "Christians" have been hammered with gay characters on TV and movies, gay marriage being legalized and finally their own churches have caved and now even ordain gay ministers to serve the flocks.
According to this article, it turns out that the number one reason people accept the gay lifestyle is because they KNOW someone who is gay. Entire families might even change their mind and accept the gay lifestyle because the cousin, aunt, nephew, brother, sister, uncle is now gay...and they fear the dividing of family more than they fear dividing from God.
Some of your supposedly Christian friends have recently said they are members of the LGBTQ community. That's becoming increasingly common. However, an even bigger number of your supposedly Christian friends have become LGBTQ allies.
You already know that. But do you know why?
There are, of course, several reasons why many professing Christians are embracing LGBTQ ideology. Satan has devised many schemes to lead us into apostasy. With that in mind, although all people who support LGBTQ ideology do so for the same reason: sin--people can commit the same sin from different temptations.
As I've alluded to, one of the reasons why many professing Christians have become allies with LGBTQ people is because many of their friends and family have become members of the LGBTQ community.
Studies show that this is statistically the biggest reason why people become LGBTQ affirming. For instance, a 2013 study from Pew Research Center shows that 32% of Americans changed their minds on gay marriage because they "know someone who is homosexual."
When a loved one says their sexual sins are an intrinsic part of who they are, they're suggesting that if we do not love their homosexuality or transgenderism--then we do not love them. That is a powerful, manipulative argument that many parents, siblings, and friends do not have courage or integrity to resist.
Many of us love and fear our friends and family more than we love and fear God. We're more afraid of becoming enemies with our loved ones than becoming enemies with God. Therefore for every person who becomes a member of the LGBTQ community, many more of their friends and family will become LGBTQ allies.
In a sense, familiarity breeds acceptance. Our culture knows that.
In a leaked video about Florida's Parental Rights In Education bill, an executive producer at Disney said they had a "not-at-all-secret gay agenda." Since people are more likely to become LGBTQ allies when they know and love others who are members of the LGBTQ community--influential institutions in our culture like Hollywood, mainstream media, social media, and academia have created an agenda to produce favourable LGBTQ representation to make us more accepting of LGBTQ ideology.
Therefore the most popular movies, TV shows, and books today feature characters and storylines designed to normalize LGBTQ sexuality. Knowing this, my wife--Annie Sey--has created a service called Library 4 Littles to help parents protect their children from deceptive books that indoctrinate them.
Still, Hollywood is filled with LGBTQ sexuality. For instance, Disney's Lightyear featured a kiss between a lesbian couple. Marvel's latest film, "Thor: Love and Thunder" is described as "super gay" by its director. And some of the most popular shows for teenagers and young adults today like Euphoria, Sex Education, and Stranger Things have at least two major characters who are LGBTQ.
After all, if your favourite character on TV has a gay best friend, why wouldn't you accept your own friend who's LGBTQ? Hollywood knows that if we support LGBTQ sexuality in our films and TV shows, we're more likely to support LGBTQ sexuality in real life.
Related to this, another major--yet unacknowledged--reason why so many professing Christians have become LGBTQ allies is because of porn. Sexual sins create apathy and support for other sexual sins. Pornography is a sexual sin that normalizes and endorses other kinds of sexual sin like rape, incest, and LGBTQ sexuality.
Therefore many professing Christians have become LGBTQ allies because many professing Christians watch porn. We've normalized porn--we've normalized sexual sin, so we've normalized LGBTQ sexuality.
Another widely known reason why some of your supposedly Christian friends have become LGBTQ allies is because of unrelenting indoctrination in public schools. This, coupled with failure from parents and pastors to teach Biblical theology and apologetics on sexuality makes many professing Christians unprepared to resist compromise.
Here; Why Your 'Christian' Friends Have Become LGBTQ Allies (prophecynewswatch.com)
Just remember, we expect the unbelieving world to fornicate, do drugs, get drunk, have gay sex, have casual sex, watch porn and feed their bodies with lust. BUT when someone who claims to be a "Christian" starts to act or say that they are allies of sinful behavior, that's when we have to ask them HOW that can all line up.
"But Dennis, I don't want to start a fight with my family, so I just stay away from the topic."
I totally understand that. My own family would be considered totally pro-gay. But while it isn't your JOB to change their minds it very well MIGHT be your job to stand for truth and to stand up for the Christian lifestyle. You might remind them what scripture says and if they respond with "I don't give a crap about what scripture says!", then you might dust off your feet and move along because you now know you aren't really discussing something with a true follower of a Christ, but only with someone who calls themselves a "Christian."